Development your Emotional Intelligence - A Book by Gerald Crawford (2023 Edition)

To develop Emotional Intelligence (EI), cultivate self-awareness by identifying and naming your emotions, self-regulation by managing those feelings, motivation by setting goals, empathy by understanding others' perspectives, and improving social skills through active listening and clear communication.

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2026 Book Reading List to help you in your Development your Emotional Intelligence this year?

Here’s a 2026 Book Reading List to support and expand your emotional intelligence development this year — ideal if you’re inspired by Development your Emotional Intelligence by Gerald Crawford and want to go deeper into self-awareness, empathy, resilience, relationships, and emotional mastery:


2026 Emotional Intelligence Reading List

1. Emotional Intelligence — Daniel Goleman

The foundational book that popularised EQ, showing how emotional skills shape success in work, relationships, and life more than IQ.
A must-read for understanding the science and real-world impact of emotional intelligence.

2. Permission to Feel — Marc Brackett

Explains how giving yourself and others permission to feel is the first step toward emotional regulation, resilience, and psychological health. Practical frameworks backed by research.

3. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 — Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves

A hands-on guide with strategies and an online EQ assessment — great for tracking your growth and applying EQ skills day-to-day.

4. Emotional Agility — Susan David

Teaches you how to navigate emotions with flexibility, face tough feelings with curiosity instead of avoidance, and make values-aligned choices.

5. Daring Greatly — Brené Brown

Focuses on vulnerability as a core emotional strength — especially useful for building empathy, courage, and authentic connection.

6. The Language of Emotions — Karla McLaren

Reframes emotions as intelligent messengers rather than obstacles. Helps deepen emotional literacy by understanding what each emotion communicates.

7. Social Intelligence — Daniel Goleman

Expands EI from self-understanding to relational awareness — how our brains are wired for connection and what builds healthy social bonds.

8. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People — Stephen R. Covey

A classic on personal and interpersonal effectiveness — especially beneficial for emotional self-control and empathetic communication.

9. The Art of Happiness — Dalai Lama & Howard Cutler

Blends psychology and spirituality to teach that happiness comes from inner mental habits, compassion, and emotional balance.

10. EQ Applied: The Real-World Guide to Emotional Intelligence — Justin Bariso

A practical, real-life take on EQ — highly readable with relatable examples and actionable insights.


Bonus Reads (Broaden Your EQ Skillset)

  • Self-Compassion — Kristin Neff – For building self-kindness and emotional resilience, crucial to emotional regulation.
  • The Untethered Soul — Michael A. Singer – Teaches how to observe emotions instead of being controlled by them.
  • Man’s Search for Meaning — Viktor Frankl – Explores emotional strength and meaning-making even in hardship — an enduring emotional growth classic.
  • Nonviolent Communication — Marshall Rosenberg – Helps you communicate needs and feelings clearly and compassionately.

How to Use This List

  • Start with a foundational book like Goleman or Brackett.
  • Mix theory with practice: Pair conceptual reads (Social Intelligence) with application guides (Emotional Intelligence 2.0).
  • Set a monthly reading rhythm: write reflections or apply one skill from each book to your daily life.
  • Pair reading with reflection practices like journaling, mindful pauses, or weekly emotional check-ins.

Why This List Works for 2026

These books cover self-awareness, emotional regulation, empathy, relationships, and resilience — the core pillars of emotional intelligence. Together they offer science-based insights, practical strategies, and deep human wisdom for transformative personal growth this year.

Healing your Body – EFT Tapping Script

Here’s a comprehensive, ready-to-use EFT Tapping Script for healing your body — supporting physical, emotional, and energetic wellness. This script focuses on releasing tension, balancing energy, reducing stress, and supporting natural body-mind harmony. It is safe to use alongside professional medical care.

You can use it word-for-word for yourself or with clients.


EFT Tapping Script

Healing Your Body


Preparation

Sit or lie comfortably.
Take a slow, deep breath in…
and exhale fully.

Bring your awareness to your body — notice areas of tension, discomfort, or imbalance without judgment.
Acknowledge how your body feels right now.


Setup Statement

(Karate Chop Point – repeat 3 times)

“Even though my body feels tense, uncomfortable, or not fully healed,
and even though I notice areas of imbalance or pain,
I choose to acknowledge my feelings honestly,
and I am open to supporting my body’s natural healing, balance, and vitality.”


Round 1 – Acknowledging Physical and Emotional Sensations

Eyebrow:
“My body is feeling tension, discomfort, or pain”

Side of Eye:
“I notice fatigue, tightness, or weakness”

Under Eye:
“I feel stress or emotional strain in my body”

Under Nose:
“I may hold fear, worry, or frustration in my body**

Chin:
“I notice areas that need attention and care”

Collarbone:
“I acknowledge my body’s signals honestly**

Under Arm:
“I notice how my emotions affect my physical state**

Top of Head:
“I honor my body’s experience right now**


Round 2 – Releasing Physical and Emotional Tension

Eyebrow:
“I release tension and tightness in my body”

Side of Eye:
“I release fatigue, heaviness, or discomfort”

Under Eye:
“I release stress, worry, or fear stored in my body”

Under Nose:
“I release frustration or resistance to healing**

Chin:
“I allow relaxation and ease to flow through me”

Collarbone:
“I release old patterns that no longer serve me**

Under Arm:
“I release energy blocks and tension**

Top of Head:
“I open to comfort, balance, and restoration**


Round 3 – Supporting the Body’s Natural Healing

Eyebrow:
“My body knows how to heal and restore itself**

Side of Eye:
“My cells and organs function optimally**

Under Eye:
“My nervous system is calm and balanced**

Under Nose:
“My immune system supports my health**

Chin:
“My body and mind work together for wellness**

Collarbone:
“I trust in my body’s natural wisdom**

Under Arm:
“I allow energy to flow freely and support vitality**

Top of Head:
“My body receives the support it needs for healing**


Round 4 – Cultivating Mind-Body Harmony

Eyebrow:
“I release thoughts that create tension or fear**

Side of Eye:
“I release beliefs that limit my body’s vitality**

Under Eye:
“I choose to focus on wellness, balance, and energy**

Under Nose:
“I cultivate patience and trust in my body**

Chin:
“I am aligned with my body’s natural rhythms**

Collarbone:
“I nurture myself with care, kindness, and attention**

Under Arm:
“I bring awareness, love, and acceptance to my body**

Top of Head:
“I harmonize my mind and body for optimal wellness**


Round 5 – Installing Healing Energy

Eyebrow:
“I invite healing energy into every cell**

Side of Eye:
“I support regeneration, restoration, and vitality**

Under Eye:
“My body responds positively to care and attention**

Under Nose:
“I am open to balance, ease, and comfort**

Chin:
“I allow strength, flexibility, and resilience to flow**

Collarbone:
“I am present with my body and honor its needs**

Under Arm:
“I cultivate energy, vitality, and wellness each day**

Top of Head:
“My body thrives in harmony and health**


Closing Integration

Place one hand on your heart and one on your stomach.
Breathe slowly and deeply.

Say silently or aloud:

“I release tension, discomfort, and resistance.
I choose balance, vitality, and healing.
I support my body with love, attention, and care.
I am aligned with my body’s natural wisdom and wellness.”

Let your body absorb calm, energy, and restoration.


Practice Notes

  • Use daily or multiple times per day for emotional and physical support

  • Repeat after stress, tension, or illness

  • Combine with mindful breathing, meditation, or gentle movement

  • Focus on trusting your body’s ability to heal and maintain balance

Healing your Mind – EFT Tapping Script

Here’s a complete, ready-to-use EFT Tapping Script for healing your mind — addressing stress, anxiety, overthinking, negative self-talk, mental fatigue, and emotional overwhelm. This script supports clarity, calm, focus, and emotional resilience.

You can use it word-for-word for yourself or with clients.


EFT Tapping Script

Healing Your Mind


Preparation

Sit comfortably.
Take a slow, deep breath in…
and exhale fully.

Bring your awareness to your thoughts and mental state —
notice stress, worry, overthinking, or tension without judgment.
Acknowledge how your mind feels right now.


Setup Statement

(Karate Chop Point – repeat 3 times)

“Even though my mind feels stressed, scattered, or overwhelmed,
and even though I notice negative thoughts, anxiety, or mental fatigue,
I choose to acknowledge these feelings honestly,
and I am open to calming, healing, and balancing my mind.”


Round 1 – Acknowledging Mental Tension

Eyebrow:
“My mind feels busy and restless”

Side of Eye:
“I notice thoughts racing or spinning”

Under Eye:
“I feel stressed, anxious, or tense”

Under Nose:
“I have mental fatigue or overwhelm”

Chin:
“I notice worries and doubts weighing on me”

Collarbone:
“I feel pressure to think, perform, or control”

Under Arm:
“My thoughts sometimes create fear or tension”

Top of Head:
“I acknowledge my mental state honestly”


Round 2 – Releasing Mental Blocks

Eyebrow:
“I release racing thoughts and mental tension”

Side of Eye:
“I release worry and overthinking”

Under Eye:
“I release fear and mental fatigue”

Under Nose:
“I release self-judgment and doubt”

Chin:
“I release tension stored in my mind and body”

Collarbone:
“I release pressure to control everything”

Under Arm:
“I release mental patterns that don’t serve me”

Top of Head:
“I allow my mind to relax and soften”


Round 3 – Cultivating Mental Clarity

Eyebrow:
“I allow clarity to replace confusion”

Side of Eye:
“I choose focus over overwhelm”

Under Eye:
“I allow calm and presence to enter my thoughts”

Under Nose:
“I see solutions and possibilities clearly”

Chin:
“I prioritize what matters most without stress”

Collarbone:
“I release distractions and mental clutter”

Under Arm:
“I allow insight, creativity, and understanding to flow”

Top of Head:
“My mind is clear, calm, and centered”


Round 4 – Healing Negative Thought Patterns

Eyebrow:
“I release self-criticism and harsh judgment”

Side of Eye:
“I release limiting beliefs about myself”

Under Eye:
“I release fear of failure or not being enough”

Under Nose:
“I release old mental habits that create stress”

Chin:
“I allow self-compassion and acceptance to grow”

Collarbone:
“I am gentle and patient with my mind”

Under Arm:
“I replace negative patterns with supportive thoughts”

Top of Head:
“My mind is open to positivity, clarity, and calm”


Round 5 – Installing Peace and Focus

Eyebrow:
“I choose calm, centered thinking”

Side of Eye:
“I choose focus, clarity, and understanding”

Under Eye:
“I choose presence over distraction”

Under Nose:
“I choose confidence over doubt”

Chin:
“I choose awareness over reaction”

Collarbone:
“I nurture a balanced, peaceful mind”

Under Arm:
“I strengthen mental resilience and clarity”

Top of Head:
“I am aligned with calm, clear, and focused thinking”


Round 6 – Repatterning Mental Habits

Eyebrow:
“I respond with awareness, not reactivity”

Side of Eye:
“I observe my thoughts without judgment”

Under Eye:
“I release patterns of worry and rumination”

Under Nose:
“I cultivate mental focus and serenity”

Chin:
“I bring calm to every decision and action”

Collarbone:
“I trust my mind to find solutions calmly”

Under Arm:
“I create healthy mental habits daily”

Top of Head:
“My mind is clear, resilient, and peaceful”


Closing Integration

Place one hand on your forehead and one on your heart.
Breathe slowly and deeply.

Say silently or aloud:

“I release mental tension, fear, and doubt.
I choose calm, clarity, and focus.
I nurture my mind with presence, awareness, and peace.
My thoughts are clear, balanced, and aligned with my highest good.”

Allow your body and mind to absorb this sense of calm, clarity, and focus.


Practice Notes

  • Use daily or whenever mental overwhelm arises

  • Repeat before or after work, study, or stressful activities

  • Combine with mindful breathing, meditation, or grounding exercises

  • Focus on observing thoughts without attachment and cultivating mental balance

Detail Description of Positive Emotions

Just like with negative emotions, positive emotions can be understood, felt, and nurtured to improve well-being, resilience, and relationships. Here’s a detailed breakdown of key positive emotions, their causes, physical sensations, psychological patterns, and growth potential.


Detailed Description of Positive Emotions


1. Joy / Happiness

Definition:
A sense of delight, contentment, and well-being that arises from favorable experiences or inner satisfaction.

Causes/Triggers:

  • Achieving personal goals.

  • Connecting with loved ones.

  • Engaging in enjoyable or meaningful activities.

Physical Sensations:

  • Warmth in chest, lightness in body.

  • Smiling, laughter, relaxed muscles.

  • Increased energy and vitality.

Psychological Patterns:

  • Optimism, creativity, and openness.

  • Increased motivation and social engagement.

  • Positive outlook even in challenges.

Potential Growth:

  • Enhances resilience and mental health.

  • Encourages gratitude and life satisfaction.

  • Builds stronger relationships and empathy.


2. Love / Affection

Definition:
A feeling of deep connection, care, or attachment toward someone or something.

Causes/Triggers:

  • Close relationships and intimacy.

  • Acts of kindness, compassion, and gratitude.

  • Self-acceptance and self-love.

Physical Sensations:

  • Warmth or openness in chest.

  • Relaxation of muscles, gentle smiles.

  • Tingling, butterflies, or sense of energy flow.

Psychological Patterns:

  • Empathy, patience, and nurturing behavior.

  • Increased cooperation and bonding.

  • Sense of safety and belonging.

Potential Growth:

  • Strengthens emotional intelligence.

  • Deepens social and romantic relationships.

  • Supports self-acceptance and compassion for others.


3. Gratitude

Definition:
A feeling of appreciation and thankfulness for people, experiences, or life circumstances.

Causes/Triggers:

  • Recognizing positive aspects of life.

  • Receiving kindness or support.

  • Overcoming challenges or gaining perspective.

Physical Sensations:

  • Warmth in chest, calmness.

  • Relaxed facial expressions and posture.

  • Gentle smile, sometimes tears of appreciation.

Psychological Patterns:

  • Optimism, satisfaction, and reduced envy.

  • Heightened awareness of abundance.

  • Increased generosity and social bonding.

Potential Growth:

  • Enhances happiness and resilience.

  • Strengthens relationships.

  • Promotes mindfulness and contentment.


4. Pride / Accomplishment

Definition:
A positive feeling from achieving a goal, meeting a standard, or performing well.

Causes/Triggers:

  • Completing tasks, personal or professional.

  • Overcoming obstacles or challenges.

  • Recognition of one’s own or others’ achievements.

Physical Sensations:

  • Upright posture, chest expansion.

  • Warmth, energy, or tingling sensation.

  • Smile, confident gestures.

Psychological Patterns:

  • Motivation and goal-oriented thinking.

  • Increased self-esteem and confidence.

  • Desire to share success and help others.

Potential Growth:

  • Builds self-efficacy and resilience.

  • Encourages pursuit of meaningful goals.

  • Fosters healthy self-worth without arrogance.


5. Curiosity / Interest

Definition:
A desire to explore, learn, or understand new experiences or ideas.

Causes/Triggers:

  • Novelty or challenge.

  • Puzzles, learning, or discovery.

  • Observing complexity or beauty.

Physical Sensations:

  • Leaning forward, attentive gaze.

  • Lightness in chest or excitement in stomach.

  • Increased alertness and focus.

Psychological Patterns:

  • Open-mindedness, creativity, and engagement.

  • Motivation for learning and personal growth.

  • Heightened problem-solving skills.

Potential Growth:

  • Supports lifelong learning and adaptability.

  • Encourages exploration and innovation.

  • Enhances connection with the world and others.


6. Hope / Optimism

Definition:
A positive expectation about the future and belief in favorable outcomes.

Causes/Triggers:

  • Setting achievable goals.

  • Belief in personal ability or external support.

  • Witnessing positive events or stories.

Physical Sensations:

  • Relaxed but energized posture.

  • Lightness in chest, gentle smile.

  • Calm yet alert energy.

Psychological Patterns:

  • Resilience in the face of challenges.

  • Forward-thinking and planning.

  • Motivation to persist despite obstacles.

Potential Growth:

  • Reduces anxiety and despair.

  • Supports problem-solving and action-taking.

  • Strengthens faith in self and others.


7. Awe / Wonder

Definition:
A feeling of amazement and reverence in response to beauty, vastness, or profound experiences.

Causes/Triggers:

  • Nature, art, music, or spiritual experiences.

  • Encountering something vast or extraordinary.

  • Realizing interconnectedness or mystery.

Physical Sensations:

  • Goosebumps or tingling.

  • Open posture, upward gaze.

  • Slow, deep breaths, feeling “small but connected.”

Psychological Patterns:

  • Increased humility and perspective.

  • Curiosity and appreciation of life.

  • Openness to new experiences and ideas.

Potential Growth:

  • Enhances creativity and perspective.

  • Encourages mindfulness and presence.

  • Deepens connection to life and others.


8. Peace / Calm / Contentment

Definition:
A state of inner tranquility and satisfaction, free from agitation or conflict.

Causes/Triggers:

  • Mindfulness, meditation, or reflection.

  • Resolution of conflict or stress.

  • Acceptance of self and life circumstances.

Physical Sensations:

  • Relaxed muscles, slowed breathing.

  • Warmth, heaviness, or lightness in body.

  • Smooth facial expressions, soft gaze.

Psychological Patterns:

  • Mental clarity and focus.

  • Reduced rumination and anxiety.

  • Increased empathy and patience.

Potential Growth:

  • Supports emotional regulation and resilience.

  • Encourages harmonious relationships.

  • Enhances overall well-being and satisfaction.


Key Points Across All Positive Emotions

  1. Positive emotions expand awareness – they open the mind, encourage creativity, and improve resilience.

  2. They strengthen relationships – by promoting empathy, connection, and shared experiences.

  3. Positive emotions are teachable and cultivable – practices like gratitude, mindfulness, and self-reflection enhance them.

  4. They counterbalance negative emotions – building a reservoir of positivity helps navigate challenges more effectively.

  5. Awareness of the body is crucial – positive emotions have unique physical cues that reinforce their experience.

Healing your Spirit – EFT Tapping Script

Here’s a complete, ready-to-use EFT Tapping Script for healing your spirit — addressing disconnection, emotional pain, low energy, lack of purpose, and alignment with your inner self. This script supports spiritual balance, inner peace, and reconnecting with your higher self or life purpose.

You can use it word-for-word for yourself or with clients.


EFT Tapping Script

Healing Your Spirit


Preparation

Sit comfortably or lie down.
Take a slow, deep breath in…
and exhale fully.

Bring your awareness to your inner self, soul, or spirit.
Notice any feelings of disconnection, emptiness, or unrest — without judgment.


Setup Statement

(Karate Chop Point – repeat 3 times)

“Even though I feel disconnected, drained, or out of alignment with my spirit,
and even though I may feel lost, blocked, or lacking purpose,
I choose to acknowledge these feelings honestly,
and I am open to reconnecting with my spirit, inner guidance, and true self.”


Round 1 – Acknowledging Spiritual Disconnection

Eyebrow:
“I feel disconnected from my spirit”

Side of Eye:
“I feel drained, empty, or unaligned”

Under Eye:
“I notice fear, doubt, or uncertainty in my soul”

Under Nose:
“I feel lost or distant from my higher purpose”

Chin:
“I notice tension, heaviness, or blocks in my energy”

Collarbone:
“I feel disconnected from my inner guidance”

Under Arm:
“I feel uncertain about life’s direction or meaning”

Top of Head:
“I acknowledge my spiritual challenges honestly”


Round 2 – Releasing Blocks and Limiting Energy

Eyebrow:
“I release fear, doubt, and confusion”

Side of Eye:
“I release heaviness and resistance in my spirit”

Under Eye:
“I release past hurts that cloud my inner light”

Under Nose:
“I release negativity, judgment, and self-doubt”

Chin:
“I release tension, fear, and emotional blocks”

Collarbone:
“I release energy that no longer serves me”

Under Arm:
“I allow my spirit to breathe, expand, and flow freely”

Top of Head:
“I open to peace, clarity, and spiritual balance”


Round 3 – Reconnecting with Inner Self

Eyebrow:
“I reconnect with my inner guidance and wisdom”

Side of Eye:
“I open to my higher self and spiritual alignment”

Under Eye:
“I trust the guidance of my soul”

Under Nose:
“I reconnect with purpose, clarity, and inspiration”

Chin:
“I allow myself to feel centered, grounded, and at peace”

Collarbone:
“I nurture my spiritual energy daily”

Under Arm:
“I invite light, love, and energy into my spirit”

Top of Head:
“I am connected to my highest self”


Round 4 – Cultivating Spiritual Strength and Balance

Eyebrow:
“I am strong, resilient, and guided by my spirit”

Side of Eye:
“I am aligned with my purpose and higher path”

Under Eye:
“I trust the flow of life and divine timing”

Under Nose:
“I choose peace, clarity, and acceptance”

Chin:
“I nurture love, compassion, and forgiveness in my soul”

Collarbone:
“I release attachment to fear and resistance”

Under Arm:
“I cultivate harmony between mind, body, and spirit”

Top of Head:
“My spirit is balanced, energized, and alive”


Round 5 – Installing Spiritual Awareness and Inner Peace

Eyebrow:
“I allow love, peace, and guidance to flow through me”

Side of Eye:
“I honor my intuition and inner wisdom”

Under Eye:
“I open to inspiration, insight, and clarity”

Under Nose:
“I embrace my spiritual gifts and abilities”

Chin:
“I radiate light, love, and positive energy”

Collarbone:
“I trust my spiritual journey and path”

Under Arm:
“I live in alignment with my soul’s purpose”

Top of Head:
“I am spiritually whole, balanced, and free”


Closing Integration

Place one hand on your heart and one on your solar plexus.
Breathe slowly and deeply.

Say silently or aloud:

“I release disconnection, fear, and doubt.
I am aligned with my spirit, inner wisdom, and purpose.
I invite light, love, and energy to flow freely through me.
I am whole, centered, and spiritually balanced.”

Allow your spirit to integrate this energy, bringing peace, connection, and clarity.


Practice Notes

  • Use daily, ideally in the morning or evening for grounding

  • Repeat whenever you feel disconnected, drained, or misaligned

  • Combine with meditation, journaling, or mindful reflection

  • Focus on trusting your inner guidance and allowing your spirit to lead

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